孩子为什么不听话因你不会批评Why isnt the child obedient Because you wont criticize.docx
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孩子为什么不听话因你不会批评WhyisntthechildobedientBecauseyouwontcriticize
孩子为什么不听话因你不会批评!
(Whyisn'tthechildobedientBecauseyouwon'tcriticize!
)
Whycriticismdoesn'twork?
Everyonemakesmistakes,butinreality,onlychildrenwhomakemistakescanbemorevulnerabletocriticism.
Why?
BecausechildrenoftenmakemistakesIncorrect!
Becausethechildissmall,donotunderstandthings,easytomakemistakes?
Incorrect!
Becauseourparentsalwaysfollowthechildren'seyes.Yes!
Allchildren'smannersarebasicallyoutofthereachoftheirparents.Assoonasshefellonthefloorcarelessly,themotherwouldsay,"howcanyoubesocareless?
"!
"Iftheexamresultsarenotsatisfactory,therewillbeavoicesounded:
"youseehowtheexamsobad."."Ifaccidentallylostsomething,therewillbeavoicesaid:
"howdoyoualwaysabsent-minded."Justhitthechild,hasnotcomeoutfromthesad,painfulgrievances,evenhumiliatingemotions,oftenwithastormofcriticism,theheartIfeelunhappy,butnotwhatway!
Butcanonlysilentlysilently,boldmaytopwords,butitwillprovokescolding,reallywrongedyoumaycry.OhThiscanbeevenworse,parentswillshout"crywhatcry."!
There'snothingtocryabout!
"Andhaveyoueverthoughtaboutit?
Whydoyoualwayscriticizefrommorningtillnight?
Whydoyouoftencriticizethesamequestion?
Isitbecausethechildisdisobedient?
Notsensible?
There'stoomuchtrouble
Haveyoueverwonderedwhyyourcriticismdidn'twork?
Somepeoplesighthatlifeisdifficult!
It'shardertobeawoman!
Ithinkyoumustsaynowthatit'shardertobeamotherthantobeamother!
EverydayIgettothefronttosubscribetomagazinesandnewspapers.Thereisanofficerondutywhoisanoldladyandhergranddaughteroftencomeshereafterschool.Oneday,asusual,Igotthenewspaperandwentinandsawthelittlegirllyingonthedeskwritingherhomework.Theoldladywasteachingherlittlegranddaughter,"ah!
"!
What'swrongwithyou?
Thewritingissougly!
Thisrewrite,thatonehastoberewritten!
"Handbyhandtopulloutalittlegirlangrilyrebukedthesideedge,thelittlegirlseemstousetheeraseractionistooslow.Thelittlegirlpressedherlipstightly,hereyesstillinsilenttears,andreluctantlyerasedthewordsshehadjustwritten.Iamcurioustosee,theoriginalisthekindofpracticewordswork,everywordwrittenmanytimes,butthewordswrittenintheMword,seethelittlegirljustwenttoschoolsoon.Somecharactersarewrittenwell,andsomecharactersarereallyugly.Theyarenothunginthegridofwords,orsimplyputthelegsout.Ithought,assuchnowonder,juststarted!
Iandtheoldladyiscooked,Iknowhergranddaughter'sname,calledyingko.
SoIsaid:
"aunt,youdon'tworryaboutme,andthe.""Yes,youareeducated,"theoldladysaidhappily."Tellheraboutit."."
Isaid:
"theah,dohomework?
Letmesee!
"
Thelittlegirlseemedtobestillveryunhappyandanswered,"Oh!
"!
"
Ipickedupherexercisebookandsaid,"Oh!
"!
Isthepracticeofwritingwritenewwordsah,reallygoodah."
Thelittlegirlseemedtohavefallenoutofhermindandstretchedherheadtogethertoreadherbook.
Ithenasked,"bytheway,wouldyoushowmewhichoneyouwritebest?
""
Thelittlegirlmadeaquickglanceatitandquicklypressedoneofherwordswithheryoungfingers.
ThewordIreadwasreallygood,thenIasked,"Oh,whichwordistheleastbeautifulone?
""
Iaskedadrawling,beforesayingallthatlittlegirlquicklytookthejobfrommyhands,towhichapoorlywrittenwordquicklyerased.
Inoddedapprovinglyandsaid:
"Yingko,Ithinkyoucanwriteabetterthanthebestwordto!
Isthatso?
"
Thelittlegirlnoddedvigorously,andsooninthebookandwriteaword,isakindofverygoodcharacter,fullofindomitablespirit.
Ipattedherontheheadandsaid,"great!
"!
Takeyourtime,grandma.Don'tbeunhappy!
"Nothreeminutes,thelittlegirl'sperformance.
Theoldladysaidinsurprise:
"MissZhao,howcanthegirllistentoyoulikethis?
""Isaidtoher,"cursingisnotthebestway."!
Encouragementismuchbetterthancriticism."
Asthesayinggoes,"thegood-for-nothing",isalsotrueforchildren.
Criticismasameansofeducation,thepurposeistoletthechildknowthecauseoftheerror,andlatercanavoidorcorrect.
Butinfact,manyparentshavethisexperience,andchildrentospeakwell,talkaboutthetruthdoesnotwork,criticismdoesnotwork,anxioustoplayamealisstilluseless,howtodotheeffectisnotgood!
Anyway,it'snousetalkingorscolding!
Beatthepipe!
Nowit'stimeforparentstothinkaboutit.Thechildmadeamistake,
Intheendhowtomanage?
Howtoeducatechildren?
Shouldwecriticizeifwearewrong?
1,uselesscriticism
Let'sfirstlookatsomeofthephenomenaandcharacteristicsofparentscriticizingtheirchildren.
(1)criticismisemotional
Oncethechildmistakes,parentstendtobeemotional,pale,dancing,murmuring,eyes,voice,languagefast,whileitisadangeroussituation,fullyanddelightfully!
Well,finished,scolded,andtheheartisalsohappy,butalsobalanced.Andyoumaynotknow,whenthefamilygrowuptospendtime,mostofthechildren'smindiscalculated:
"nowisscoldedhalf."!
""Justalittlemorepatience,andsoonit'sallover."!
"Theparentssuddenlystoppedandaskedwhenthechildrenshouted:
"doyouunderstand?
"Thechildimmediatelyreflected,"yes,Ido."!
""Rememberyet?
"""Remember!
"!
""Willyoustillcommitcrimeslater?
"""No!
"!
"Itwassoniceandelaboratejusttoputanendtothestorm.Ifthereisavideocamera,theparentslookattheirfacialexpressionsandperformance,reallycannotbeartoseeah!
Andwhatthechildsaystoyouisoftennottobeabletofallback,justdonotknowwhatyouhavesaidatall.Justonething:
Iwaswrong,soyoucalledmenames!
Eventheguiltanduneasinessofthemistakevanishedwiththeroarofcriticism.Becausetheyunderstandalittle,andthenscold,generalwillbefine!
Theonlythingthatchildrendoandareinterestediniswaiting,waitingfortheendoftheblame!
Theendresultis"taketheheartoutofyourmouth","youscoldme,andIdomine."".
Youcancountonthismorepersonalemotionalcatharsis.Howeffectiveissubjectivecriticism?
Infact,alotoftimes,silenceisfarmoreeffectivethancriticism.
Thepurposeofcriticismistomakethechildawareofhisproblems,tounderstandandacceptthecorrectsuggestions,andtocorrecttheminaction.Asananalysisandevaluationofafault,itshouldbeveryrational.Inthisprocess,temperwillinevitablycomplain,canaccept,ventobjects.
Imaginehowsuchanemotioncanwinrespectfromchildren,andhowtoconvincechildren,andhowtoletchildrenlistentoit?
(2)theoverflowofcriticism
Sometimes,ourparentscriticizedthechild,impassionedvoice,speedfast,brainactivity,thinkingofjumping,Lenovorich,exaggeration.Forexample,whenabowlwasplayed,youcouldthinkoflosingyourkeys,losingmoney,losingface(becauseyoufailedtheexam),andyoucouldalsofight,watchTV,playgamesandsoon.Inaword,anythingthatcanberememberedcanbereplayedlikeamovielens.Indeed,informative,allusive,saychildreneyelidsdoubled,mouthoff,necktwist,headlow,thought:
saywhatyoulove!
Notthirsty,either?
Hum!
Criticismshouldbetargeted,saywhatthecurrentproblems,itisgood,butcannotblamethejointnegligence,beforewealsocount.The"oldold"againwillonlyletthechildrenfeeltired,hateandhatredforparents,andbecauseotherthingstopulltoomuch,dilutethecurrenttheme,themaincontradictioniseasytobeweakenedandignored.Veryfunny,oftenhaveparentstalkingstopped,how?
ItwasawhileIforgotwhattosay!
Hadtolaughatmyselfandsaid:
"well,lookatyou,I'mangry!
"
Justimagine,suchcriticismmakeschildrenbitterandfreethemeofhowcouldhelpsolvetheproblem?
(3)simplicityofcriticism
Alotoftimes,whenachildmakesamistake,aparent'sperformanceisoftencriticized,notcriticized,andcriticizedwithoutcriticism.ManyparentshavehadchildrenLaichuangphenomenon,isoftenthesidetosidechatter,andthechildrenaretoregardthisasbackgroundnoise.Therewasnocriticismatall.Becausethechildisveryclear,ifyouwalktolearntobelate,parentswillhaveawaytoletthechildrenontimetoschool,acarcanbesent,nocarcantakeataxiah.
AparentonceaskedmewhatIshoulddoaboutitIsaiditwasverysimple,youdon'tcareabouthim,andhe'llbecriticizedbytheschoolifyouarelate.Becauseyouhaveallthewaythatheshouldnotbelate,bearchildreninbedisashieldconsequences,sohewasconfidentcalmlyinbed,youscoldhimforwhat?
Therearemanysituationslikethis,inwhichparentscriticizeonlythephenomenonwithouttakingpracticalandeffectivesolutions.
(4)criticismisimpatient
Therearealotofthetimeitis,thechildrendidn'tevenrealizethemistakeisimminentorhascome,notdeeplyawareofmistakescanbringwhatkindofconsequences,ourparentsarealreadycanscarcelywait,gasisnotonetoplay,usuallyistheeyesandthemouth,evenhandto.
Manisnotasaint,
Toerrishuman"?
Moreover,"whoknowsnotyet?
"!
It'snormaltomakemistakes,andit'snormaltomakemistakeswhenyoufirstexperiencesomething!
Butparentsdonotgivechildrenenoughtimeandspacetoexperiencemistakes,trysetbacks,andchildrendon'tevenknowwhat'swrong.Criticismandblamehavecomealong.Thisanxious,quick,impatientofcriticism,oftenkillchildren'screativity,limitingthedevelopmentofchildren.
Whyaretheremanychildrenwhoarenotinterestedinlearning?
Itisbecauseparentsinterfereto
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