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OvercomingShyness
AllmylifeI’vebeenaninwardly内向directedperson.Whilesomepeopleliketothinkoutloud,Iprefertoprocesstheworldinternally内部,answermyownquestions,andcometoaconclusionbeforespeakingup.
Thispersonalitytrait特征hasbenefitsanddrawbacks.Onthepositiveside,it’sasourceofstrengthasawriterandanalyticalthinker.WithoutitIwouldn’thavetakenaninterestinbooks/writingandthissitewouldn’texist.Onthedownside,mytendencytokeepeverythinginsideisresponsibleforoneofmymajorweaknesses—shyness.
UnderstandingShyness
Shynessisrootedinfear—anirrational不合理的fearofspeakingupandbeinghumiliated使丢脸orignored.Whyaresomepeoplesoafraidofspeakingout?
Inmymindthemaincausesareoversensitivityandinsecurity缺乏安全感.Whenyouassociatespeakingoutwith把什么联系在一起painandembarrassment,you’lldoalmostanythingtoavoidit.
Unfortunately,shynessisanenormous极大的detriment伤害tosuccess.Forpeoplewhosharethisproblem,it’simportanttounderstandthecausesandworktowardsovercomingit.
It’sNotYouIt’sThem
Fornaturallyquietpeople,thefearofspeakingcanarisefromafewbadexperiences,especiallyatanearlyage.Whenanadultreactsangrilyordismissively不屑一顾toanattemptatselfexpression,it’snaturaltotakeitpersonallyandshyawayfromfutureexpression.Evenifthisonlyhappensonceortwice,peopletendtoexaggerate夸大theseincidentsuntiltheybecomementalmonsters.Growingup,ittookmealongtimetorealizehowselfcenteredpeopleare.Thewaysomeonereactstosomethingyousayusuallyhasnothingtodowithyou–it’smorelikelyareflectionofthemoodthey’reinorarecenteventintheirlife.
Akeytoovercomingshynessisrecognizingtheseperceived察觉发现slightsforwhattheyare–meaningless.Whensomeonereactstoyounegatively,don’ttakeitpersonally.Imaginetheotherperson’sperspective视觉观点.Istheresomethingthatmayhaveputtheminabadmood?
Aretheytryingtocoverup掩盖掩饰theirowninadequacy?
Consideringtheperspectiveoftheotherpersonmakesiteasiertoputtheirreactioninthepropercontext背景环境.
It’salsoessentialtoletgoofbadexperiences.Whenyoudwell居住onabadexperience,itgrowsintosomethingmuchmorefrighteningthanreality.Don’tdothistoyourself!
Themoreyouthinkaboutabadexperiencethemorepoweryougiveit.Don’tblameyourself.Thinkaboutsomethingconstructive有益的.Themoreyoucanfillyourmindwithpositivememoriesofspeakinguptheeasieritgets.
OtherPeopleAren’tSoDifferent
Anotherimportantstepinovercomingshynessisrealizingthatotherpeoplearebasicallythesameasyou.Everyoneisinsecure不自信的andafraidofembarrassment.Otherpeopleusuallyaren’tassmartasyouthink.Ifyouhaveaquestion,chancesaresomeoneelseiswonderingaboutthesamething.
Don’tletoneortwobadexperiencesdictate控制支配yourentireopinionofhumanity人性.Byandlarge总体上来说,peoplearefriendlyandinterestedinconnectingwithothers.They’llrespondfavorablytoyourattemptsatcommunicating.Inmostcases,peoplewillbethrilled兴奋thatyoutooktheinitiative创造力tobreaktheice.
RealizingSelfWorth
Thesecondcauseofshynessisinsecurity.Ifyoudon’tthinkyouhaveanythingvaluabletocontribute,what’sthepointofriskingembarrassment?
Togetoverthisyouneedtorecognizethemerit优点ofyourownthoughtsandthevaluetheypresenttoothers.It’sironic冷嘲的thatthepeoplemostinclinedtowards倾向于shynessareoftenthemostthoughtful.Toreachyourpotential,youneedtoshareyourselfwiththeworld.Yourbrilliantinsightsdon’tholdanyvalueuntilthey’veenlightenedsomeoneelse.
Thebestwaytogetaccustomedtosharingispractice.Forceyourselftospeakup,especiallywhenyoudon’twantto.Sitinthefrontoftheroomandmakeyourselfvisible.Understandthatsharingyourinsightswithpeopleisdoingthemafavor.Onceyougetusedtoopeningup,you’llnoticehowpositivelypeoplereact.Thiswillbuildyourselfconfidenceandfaithinthegoodwill友好善意ofothers.
TheDutytoContribute
Overcomingshynessisn’tjustsomethingyoushoulddoforyourself,it’salsopartofbeingacontributingmemberofsociety.Whenyouhaveathoughtorideathatdeservestobeheard,you’renotonlyhurtingyourselfbykeepingquiet,you’rehurtingthepeoplearoundyou.
Abasketballcoachonceexplainedtomehowpassingcanselfish.Ifaplayerhasanopenshotthatshecanmake,andshedecidestopassinstead,thatplayerisbeingselfishandhurtingtheteam.Whenyoupassupthechancetoexcel擅长becauseofshynessorthefearoffailure,you’rehurtingthegrouptoshelteryourself.
Otherpeopleneedyou.Theyneedyourintelligenceandinsight.Theyneedyourhelptoworkthroughproblems.Byhidingbehindshyness,youlimitthehelpyoucangivetoyourfriends,familymembers,andcolleagues.
Acollegeprofessorofmineusedtomakeabigdealaboutovercomingshyness.Hecalledita,“silly,foolishhabit,”andsaid,“thesooneryoucanbreakitthebetter.”Shynessdoesn’tbenefitanyone.Savingyourselfalittleembarrassmentdoesn’tamounttomuchinthelongrun.Byovercomingshyness,yougiveyourselfthechancetoberecognizedandpromoted.Youcreateopportunitiesandopenyourselfuptoformingmeaningfulrelationships.
Don’tkeepyourtalentinside,shareateveryopportunitysoitcangrowandflourish繁荣茂盛.
5PracticalShynessTipsThatWorkEverytime
Weallexperiencealittleshynessattimeswithpeoplewhowefindintimidating.恐吓
Herearesomeusefulsuggestionsandideasthatcanhelpyouovercomeshynessandspeakupwhenyouneedtoinordertoachieveyourgoals...
1.Shynessisaproblemformillionsofpeoplearoundtheworldandunfortunately,thereisnotamagicpotion药液thatwilleliminateshynessoronesimplesuggestionthatcanbeofassistancetoallshypeople.
Ifyouwanttoovercomeshynessandimproveyoursociallife,youwillhavetobeflexibleandtryvariousthingsthatmaybehelpfulforyoupersonally.
Thethingsthatareofthemosthelptosomeshypeoplewillnotworkaswellforothers.Trial审讯,询问考验anderror错误andadesire渴望欲望tosucceedarethekeystofindingwhatworksbestforyou.
2.Shypeopleshouldpracticetheirconversationalskillsandneverleavehomewithoutatleastamentallistofinteresting,possibletopicsofconversation.
Agoodconversationalistisalwayspreparedwithtopicsofconversationthatmaybeofinteresttothepeopletheyknowtheywillencounterinacertainsituation.
3.Remembertoaskfriendsandcolleaguesaboutpreviouslymentionedplansandactivities.Currentevents,theweather,andlocalnewsarealwaysgoodconversationstarters.
Alwaysbewellpreparedforanysocialsituation.Alittleadvanceplanningcanreduceyouranxietyimmensely.极度,非常
Followingafewsimpleshynesstipscanbeverybeneficialtoyouinyourquest寻求探求toovercomeshyness.
4.Ifyousufferfromextremeshyness,agoodshynesstipistoexplaintheproblemtothoseyouencounteronaregularbasis.
Peopletendtobeveryunderstandingandhelpfulifyouexplaintheprobleminawaythatsimplyletsthemknowyouareshy,andnotinawaydesignedtogainsympathy.
Therearetwotypesofshyness.
Thosewhoareobviouslyshyandtendtoshake,sweat汗水,andbecomevisiblyuncomfortableinsocialsituationsandthosewhosimplyavoideyecontact,areunusuallyquiet,andtendtolookatthefloor.
Theaveragepersonmaydrawthewrongconclusionaboutthosewhoarenotsoobviouslyshy.Youmayappeartobealoof不友好的orarrogant高傲的toothersunlessyousimplyexplainyourshynesstothoseclosesttoyou.
5.Whileonthepathtoovercomingshyness,makesuretorewardyourselfforsmallaccomplishmentsalongtheway.Itdoesn'thavetobeahugerewardorabigcelebration,justapatonthebackorspecialtreatwilldoverynicely.
Anotheroften-overlookedshynesstipistogooutofyourwaytobehelpfultoothers.Shynesstendstomakepeopletotallyabsorbedwiththemselvesandtheirownproblems.
Learningtomaketheefforttoassistotherpeopleinsmallwayswilldowondersforyourself-esteemandgiveyouconfidenceinhowyouinteractwith互相作用newpeople.Makingothersfeelspecialisagreatwaytolessenyouanxietyanddifficultycarryingonaconversation.
Whilepracticingtheshynesstipsyouhavelearned,don'tgooverboardandtrytochangeeverynegativepersonalitytraitatonetime.Pickoneskillatatimeandpracticethenewskilluntilitbecomesnaturalandhabitual.
Thenmoveontothenextthingyou'dliketochange.Keeptacklingandmasteringoneskillatatimeuntilyouovercomeyourshynessandlearntofunctioninanysocialsetting.
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ThePersonalCostofShyness
Hassomeonenearbybeensendingyouemailsratherthancallingormeetingyouface-to-face?
Whenyoudogettogether,doessheorhestandback,avoidholdingeyecontact,orspeakingup?
Whiletherearemanypossiblereasonsfortheirbehavior,thatpersonmay,infact,beavictimofwhathasbecome"thethirdmostprevalent流行的psychiatric精神病的disorder"accordingtoDr.LynneHenderson,adirectorofTheShynessClinic.Yes,shyness.
AlongwithDr.PhilZimbardoofStanfordUniversity,Hendersonhasbeenstudyingwhattheybelieveisagrowingsocialepidemic流行病.Intheirresearch,nearlyhalfofAmericansdescribethemselvesaschronically长期的shy.Another40%
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