How to Stay Mentally Healthy.docx
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HowtoStayMentallyHealthy
HowtoStayMentallyHealthy
Iamyettoseesomeonewhosays“Inevergetfrustrated”.Weashumansalwaysexperiencefrustrationinourdailylives.Howeversometimesweletthisfrustrationtakeoverthathampersouractivitiesandactions.Weneedtocontrolandhandlethefrustration.
Whatisfrustration?
Frustrationistheactofreactingtoaneventwhichisnotdesirable.IwouldlikeyoutospendsometimeonwhatIhavementionedFrustrationis.ItisREACTIONthatcausesthefrustration.Themomentaneventoccursyoudonotponderonthat,youdonothavetimetothinkonthatanddecidehowtohandlethesituation.Theimmediateactionisimpulsiveandyoureactimmediately.Thereisanotherwayyoucanhandlethesameevent.Insteadofreacting,youcouldRESPONDtothesameevent.ThemomentyouRESPONDtotheeventratherthanreactingyounevergetfrustrated.Remembertheeventhasalreadyoccurredwhichmeansthatyoucannotdoanythingabouttheeventnow.AndyouhaveaChoicetorespondthewayyouwantto.
How----Ifyoustartlookingateventsaseventsthatcannotbeavoidedandhasalreadyoccurredthenyouponderforsolutionsratherthandisturbingyourselfbyreacting.Thisistheeasiestwaytochangethefeelingoffrustration.Tostartfocusingonsolutionsratherthanthesocalled“PROBLEM”,thatdisturbsyou.Ifyouweretocurseyourself,blameyourselfandscreamatyourselfyouonlyendupfeelingworse.Thisisselfsabotage.Interestinglyyoucanconsciouslygetangryandgetangryandfrustratedbyreactingtoanevent.Youtendtoloosemoreenergywithinyouwhenyougetfrustratedandthe“PROBLEM”thoughdoesnotevenexist,seemstobeexistingandneverissolved.
Asyoulookateventandtellyourself“Thiseventhasalreadyhappenedandisinevitable”,youwouldonlyrespondandnotreact.Momentsbeforetheoutburstofemotionsandfrustrationthereisaprocessthatisinvolved.Yourunpictureoftheeventinyourmindthatleadstoanintensivehelplessstateandfiresasfrustration.Itisbettertocontroltheemotionasthatwilldoalotofgoodbecauseyourreactionoffrustrationcouldbesointensethatitcanonlyintensifymore.ThoughsomedosuggestthatgivingventtothesefeelingsisgoodandacceptableIdonotauthenticatethistheoryastheramificationsareveryhigh.
3mostimportantpointsthatyoumusthaveinmindtomanagefrustration–1)Acceptthefactthatgettingfrustratedisacommonhumanact.2)Learnfromthefrustrationandmoveforwardinsteadofgettingworkedonit3)Startcreatinganewbeliefforyourselfthatthereareotherbetterwaysofhandlingsituationsthatyouareawareof
Youaresomuchinvolvedandtotallyassociatewiththeeventthatfrustrationcropsupandthenitjustrunsthroughyou.Yesitisveryimportantforyoutobeassociated,tobeinthethickofthingsforachievingyouroutcomes.Butwhenyoudonotgetthedesiredresultsyoumustdothedevilsadvocate.Youneedtostepoutofyourselfandlookatthingsfroma3rd personsview,whichmeansthatyouaredisassociatingyourselfandyouwouldtendtolookatsolutionsratherthanfeelfrustratedandhavethefeelingofletdown.
Isometimesadvocatefrustrationandacertainamountoffrustrationisalwaysgoodbecauseitmeansthatyouareexpectingbetterresultsfromyourself.Youwantmoreforyourselfandhencegetfrustrated.YouareaChampandyouknowthatyoucanworkoutthingsbetterandthenyougetfrustrated,whichisanadvantageforyou.Thequestionsyouaskyourselfcanintensifyorde-intensifyyourleveloffrustration.Recallthelasttimeyouwerefrustratedandlookatallthequestionsyouaskedyourself.Iamsureitwouldbequestionslike“Whythehelldidthishappentome”,“Thisissopatheticandlifeofsounfair”andsoon…,Haveyoueverasked“WhatmustIdotocomeoutofthis?
”
Dothissmallexercise,recallaneventthathasbeentroublingyouandforwhichyougetfrustratedbecauseyoudonotgetthedesiredoutcomes.Askyourself“whythehellisthishappening?
”andexperiencehowyoufeel.Isn’titfrustrating?
Iamsureitis.Nowchangethesamequestionto“whatmustIdotoovercomethischallenge”.Nowhowdoyoufeel?
Youfeelmoreincontrolofyouremotions,yourthoughts?
YouhavetheChoiceandfrustrationsarenotexternaltheyareinternalinnatureandyouknowtheconsequencesoffrustrationaresohigh.Sothechoiceofnotbeingfrustratedwillleadyoutobetteroutcomesinlife.Enjoyeverybitoflife.Allthathappenshasapurposeandhasapositiveintention.Lookatthehighestpositiveintentionbehindtheeventandwhyhastheeventoccurredeventhoughitwasnotfavorableandnegative.Youcanfocusonthepositiveintentions,onthepositivepurposewhichwillleadyoutoamorepeacefulandcomfortablelife.
"Ifeelsofrustrated!
"Asahumanbeing,chancesareyou'vesaidthismanytimes,eitheroutloudorinyourmind.Thegreatthingaboutacceptingyou'refrustratedisthatyou'veidentifiedandacknowledgedwhat'sgoingon.It'stooeasytocarryonstrugglingwithsomethingandbeingunawarethatit'scausingyoufrustration.Onceyou'verealisedthatyou'refrustrated,you'refreetomakechoicesabouthowyouhandleit.Thewayyouhandleyourfrustrationsisakeytosuccessfullymovingon.
Oneofthefirstchoicesyouneedtomakeistoshiftawayfrombeingavictimandfromsaying"Whyme?
"or"Whydidthishavetohappen?
"Beingavictimwastesyourtimeandenergyandoftenleavesyoufeelingevenmorefrustrated.Instead,maketheshifttotappingintoyourownresourcefulnessanddiscoversolutions.Partofthereasonweoftenstaystuckandfrustratedisthatwedon'tbelievewecandosomethingaboutit.Youaremoreresourcefulthanyouthink.
Thefirststepistoidentifyspecificallywhatyou'refeelingfrustratedabout.Itmayseemobviousbutoftenwhenwefeelfrustration,westarttopileotherunrelatedthingsontopofitandthiscloudstheissue.Specificallynamingyourfrustrationishalfthebattle.
Onceyou'veidentifiedthisspecifically,thenbeanobserverofyourself.Thisisn'tanopportunitytobeatyourselfup.It'sanopportunitytoobservewhat'sgoingonwithoutjudgement,leavingyouabletomakeeffectivechoices.Asanobserver,you'lloftenseeadifferentperspective.Asyou'reobservingyourself,seewhatyoumostneed,what'strulyimportanttoyouandwhatitwilltaketomoveforwardquickly.Observethechatterthat'sgoingoninyourmind.Isyourmindchatterkeepingyoustuck?
Whatisworthlisteningto?
Oneofthebestwaystobeanobserverandtoseethesituationmoreclearlyistotakeabreak.Onceyou'vesteppedbackfromthefrustration,you'llfinditeasiertotapintoyourcreativenessandcomeupwithideasandsolutions.Tapintothecreativeandresourcefulpartofyourselfbyaskingempoweringquestions.Empoweringquestionssuchas"Whatisimportanttomeaboutthis?
","Whatistheintendedresult?
","Whatchoicesareavailabletome?
",or"WhatisthenextactionIneedtotake?
"Whenyou'reaskingthesequestions,listencarefullyforyourownresponse.Thisiswhereyourownpersonalresourcefulnesswillshowupandgiveyoutheanswersandsolutionstoenableyoutomoveforward.You'llquicklymovebeyondthefrustrationandgetbacktoachievingwhatyouwant.
Whenfrustrationshaveoccurred,it'swellworthgettingtothesourcesothatyoucanhandleitonceandforall.Whatoftenleavesusfrustratediswhenthesameproblemscomeuptimeandtimeagain.Gettothesourceofyourfrustrationandfromthat,learnwhatneedstochangeorneedstobedonedifferentlyinthefuture.Frustrationscanalsopresentanopportunity,althoughitmaynotfeellikeitatthetime.They'reanopportunityforgrowthandimprovement.Nexttimeyoufeelfrustrated,Iinviteyoutoseeitasanopportunity.
It'seasyforpeopletogetupsetinthisfast-pacedworld,orgetallflusteredinthevirtualworldofsocialonlinenetworks,twitter,orinstante-mailcommunication.Folkssaythingstheydon'tmean,andtheyhitthesendbutton,buttherealityisyoumustdealwithitandsocietyischangingfast.Youmustnotletyourangergetthebestofyou,andyou'llneedtolearnhowtohandleyourfrustration.
Overtheyears,whatI'velearnedisthatsometimesyouneedtostepbackandunderstand,andthrowalittlepsychology,orphilosophyontopofthesituationandlookatit,asifitwassprinkledonthetable.Inotherwords,youremoveyourselffromthesituationandanalyzeit.Trytounderstandallthepersonalitiesinvolved,allthemotivations,andhowtheprogressionofeventsledyouandallthepartiesinvolvedtothiscurrentsetofcircumstancesandevents.
ThisisthebestwaythatI'vefoundtohandlefrustration,ortodealwithanysortofthoughtsofhostility;indeed,Ithinkwecallthisangermanagementforlackofabetterterm.Buttherealityisitworks,it'sscaryeasy,andittimethatyouburythehatchetbetweenyouandwhoeverelseiscausingthecommotion.
Youmustunderstandthatitishumannaturetocreatechaosandcontroversy,perhapsoutofboredom,orperhaps,duetosomethingwhichtriggeredchemicalsinthebrainoftheotherparty.Youmustrealizetheyareonlyhuman.
WhatIneedyoutodoisactlikesomeonewhois"humanplus"thatistosay,someonewhoisaboveitall,andabovethefray.Whensomeonegetsangryatyou;youmustchoosenottoplay,thenanalyzethesituationandactuponitonanotherday.
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LanceWinslowisaretiredFounderofaNationwideFranchiseChain,andnowrunstheOnlineThinkTank.LanceWinslowbelievesyoushouldbeanicepersonforasl
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