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Youcanmakestridesin5fundamentalareasbyjustsending5emails.
HAPPINESS
POPULARAMONGSUBSCRIBERS
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Obama’sTraumaTeam
Everymorningsendafriend,familymemberorco-workeranemailtosaythanksforsomething.
Mightsoundsillybutit’sactuallyexcellentadviceonhowtomakeyourlifebetter.
There’stonsandtonsandtonsofresearchshowingthatovertime,thisalone–onesillyemailaday–canmakeyouhappier.
ViaHarvardprofessorShawnAchor’sTheHappinessAdvantage:
ThisiswhyIoftenaskmanagerstowriteane-mailofpraiseorthankstoafriend,familymember,orcolleagueeachmorningbeforetheystarttheirday’swork—notjustbecauseitcontributestotheirownhappiness,butbecauseitveryliterallycementsarelationship.
(Moreonincreasinghappinesshere.)
JOB
Attheendoftheweek,sendyourbossanemailandsumupwhatyou’veaccomplished.
Theyprobablyhavenoideawhatyou’redoingwithyourtime.They’rebusy.Theyhavetheirownproblems.
Foryourboss,thislet’sthemknowwhatyou’vebeenuptowithouthavingtoaskandsavesthemfromwonderingandworrying.They’llappreciateitandprobablycometorelyonit.
Foryou,it’sproactiveandshowsoffyourefforts,whichStanfordprofessorJeffreyPfeffersaysisthekeytosuccessinanyorganization:
…youshouldmakesurethatyourperformanceisvisibletoyourbossandyouraccomplishmentsarevisible.Yoursuperiorsintheorganizationhavetheirownjobs,aremanagingtheirowncareers,arebusyhumanbeings.Andyoushouldnotassumethatthey’respendingalltheirtimethinkingaboutyouandworryingaboutyouandyourcareer.
(Moreonimprovingyourworklifehere.)
GROWTH
Onceaweekemailapotentialmentor.
Doesn’thavetoberelatedtoyourjob.Whodoyouadmirethatyoucouldlearnfrom?
AsI’vebloggedaboutbefore,mentorsarekeytosuccess.
ViaTheGeniusinAllofUs:
NewInsightsintoGenetics,Talent,andIQ:
Anypersonluckyenoughtohavehadonegreatteacherwhoinspired,advised,critiqued,andhadendlessfaithinherstudent’sabilitywilltellyouwhatadifferencethatpersonhasmadeinherlife.“Moststudentswhobecomeinterestedinanacademicsubjectdosobecausetheyhavemetateacherwhowasabletopiquetheirinterest,”writeCsikszentmihá
lyi,Rathunde,andWhalen.Itisyetanothergreatironyofthegiftednessmyth:
inthefinalanalysis,thetrueroadtosuccessliesnotinaperson’smolecularstructure,butinhisdevelopingthemostproductiveattitudesandidentifyingmagnificentexternalresources.
Thisisoneofthosethingseveryoneseemstoknowbutnobodydoesanythingabout.
It’stheageoftheinternet,folks.IfyouhaveGoogleandhalfanounceofresourcefulnessit’snotthathardtofindalmostanyone’semailaddress.Iftheyhaveawebsite,theiremailisprobablylistedonit.
Whatdoyouwrite?
TryAdam’smethodorTim’smethodorRamit’smethod.
(Moreonthepowerofmentorshere.)
FRIENDSHIP
Emailagoodfriendandmakeplans.
Whatdoesresearchsaykeepsfriendshipsalive?
Stayingintouchevery2weeks.
Got14friends?
Thenyouneedtobeemailingsomebodyeveryday.
Andwhatshouldyouemailthemabout?
Makeplanstogettogether.
Researchshowsthebestuseofelectroniccommunicationistofacilitateface-to-faceinteraction:
Theresultswereunequivocal.“Thegreatertheproportionofface-to-faceinteractions,thelesslonelyyouare,”hesays.“Thegreatertheproportionofonlineinteractions,thelonelieryouare.”Surely,IsuggesttoCacioppo,thismeansthatFacebookandthelikeinevitablymakepeoplelonelier.Hedisagrees.Facebookismerelyatool,hesays,andlikeanytool,itseffectivenesswilldependonitsuser.“IfyouuseFacebooktoincreaseface-to-facecontact,”hesays,“itincreasessocialcapital.”Soifsocialmedialetyouorganizeagameoffootballamongyourfriends,that’shealthy.Ifyouturntosocialmediainsteadofplayingfootball,however,that’sunhealthy.
(Moreonimprovingfriendshipshere.)
CAREER
Sendanemailtosomeoneyouknow(butdon’tknowverywell)andcheckin.
These“weakties”aretheprimarysourceoffuturecareeropportunities.
FromCharlesDuhigg’sexcellentbookThePowerofHabit:
WhyWeDoWhatWeDoinLifeandBusiness:
Infact,inlandingajob,Granovetterdiscovered,weak-tieacquaintanceswereoftenmoreimportantthanstrong-tiefriendsbecauseweaktiesgiveusaccesstosocialnetworkswherewedon’totherwisebelong.ManyofthepeopleGranovetterstudiedhadlearnedaboutnewjobopportunitiesthroughweakties,ratherthanfromclosefriends,whichmakessensebecausewetalktoourclosestfriendsallthetime,orworkalongsidethemorreadthesameblogs.Bythetimetheyhaveheardaboutanewopportunity,weprobablyknowaboutit,aswell.Ontheotherhand,ourweak-tieacquaintances—thepeoplewebumpintoeverysixmonths—aretheoneswhotellusaboutjobswewouldotherwiseneverhearabout.
“ButIdon’tknowwhattosay.”Doanylittlethingthatbenefitsthem,notyou.TryAdamRifkin’s5minutefavor.
Orjustsendthemalinktheymightfinduseful.
Stillstuck?
Okay,sendthemthelinktothepostyou’rereadingrightnow.
Ifthishashelpedyouwithhowtomakeyourlifebetteritcanprobablyhelpthemtoo.
(Moreonhowtonetworkeffectivelyhere.)
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Wanttobemoresuccessful?
Actually,that’snotambitiousenough—wanttobethebest?
TheRiseofFakePot
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ChristiansandTyrants
Ido.SoIcalledmyfriendDanielCoyle,authorofthebestbooksongettingbetteratanything:
TheTalentCodeandTheLittleBookofTalent.
Danknowsthatthe“10,000hourrule”isnicebutyouneedtoalignyoureffortwiththewayyourbrainwasdesignedtolearn.
Hoursarevitalbutyoucangettomasteryfaster—muchfaster—bypracticingtherightway.
SohowcanyouandIdothat?
Hereare7stepsexpertsuse:
1)BeUncomfortable
Youlearnbestwhenyou’rereaching.“Flow”isgreat.Butflowisnotthebestwaytolearn.
Youwanttobestretchedtotheedgeofyourability.Itneedstobehard.That’showyourbraingrows.
Here’sDan:
Welearnwhenwe’reinourdiscomfortzone.Whenyou’restruggling,that’swhenyou’regettingsmarter.Themoretimeyouspendthere,thefasteryoulearn.It’sbettertospendavery,veryhighqualitytenminutes,oreventenseconds,thanitistospendamediocrehour.Youwanttopracticewhereyouareontheedgeofyourability,reachingoverandoveragain,makingmistakes,failing,realizingthosemistakesandreachingagain.
Moreonthebestwayforyoutopracticehere.
2)StopReading.StartDoing.
Keepthe“RuleofTwo-Thirds”inmind.Spendonlyonethirdofyourtimestudying.
Theothertwo-thirdsofyourtimeyouwanttobedoingtheactivity.Practicing.Testingyourself.
Getyournoseoutofthatbook.Avoidtheclassroom.Whateveritisyouwanttobethebestat,bedoingit.
Thecloseryourpracticeistotherealthing,thefasteryoulearn.
Ourbrainsevolvedtolearnbydoingthings,notbyhearingaboutthem.Thisisoneofthereasonsthat,foralotofskills,it’smuchbettertospendabouttwothirdsofyourtimetestingyourselfonitratherthanabsorbingit.There’saruleoftwothirds.Ifyouwantto,say,memorizeapassage,it’sbettertospend30percentofyourtimereadingit,andtheother70percentofyourtimetestingyourselfonthatknowledge.
Moreonhowtoshiftfromreadingtodoinghere.
3)TheSweetSpot
Youwanttobesuccessful60-80%ofthetimewhentraining.That’sthesweetspotforimprovement.
Whenlearningistoohard,wequit.Whenit’stooeasy…well,wequitthentoo.
Alwaysbeuppingthechallengetostayinthat60-80%zone.
Youdon’twanttobesucceeding40percentofthetime.That’sflailingaround.Youdon’twanttobesucceeding95percentofthetime.That’stooeasy.Youwanttoconstantlybetoggling,adjustingtheenvironmentsothatyou’resucceeding60to80percentofthetime.
Moreonhowtofindyoursweetspotforlearning
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