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Now,fastforwardto2012,I'
mbackhereontheTEDstageagain.Mydaughteris20.Sheisacollegestudent.Shesleepswithhercellphone,sodoIandI'
vejustwrittenanewbook,butthistime,it'
snotonethatwillgetmeonthecoverofWiredMagazine.So,whathappened?
I'
mstillexcitedbytechnology,butIbelieveandI'
mheretomakethecasethatwe'
relettingittakeusplacesthatwedon'
twannago.
Overthepast15years,I'
vestudiedtechnologiesofmobilecommunicationandI'
veinterviewedhundredsandhundredsofpeople,youngandoldabouttheirpluggedinlivesandwhatIfoundisthatourlittledevices,thoselittledevicesinourpocketsaresopsychologicallypowerfulthattheydon'
tonlychangewhatwedo.Theychangewhoweare.Someofthethingswedonowwithourdevicesarethingsthatonlyafewyearsagowouldhavefoundoddordisturbing,butthey'
vequicklycometoseemfamiliarjusthowwedothings,sojusttotakesomequickexamples,peopletextore-mailduringcorporateboardmeetings.TheytextandshopandgoonFacebookduringclasses,duringpresentations,actuallyduringallmeetings.Peopletalkedtomeabouttheimportantnewskillofmakingeyecontactwhileyourtexting.Peopleexplainedtomethatit'
shard,thatitcanbedone.Parentstextanddoe-mailatbreakfastandatdinnerwhereyourchildrencomplainedaboutnothavingtheirparents'
fullattention,butthenthesamechildrendenyeachothertheirfullattention.Thisisarecentshotofmydaughterandherfriendsbeingtogetherwhilenotbeingtogether.Andweeventexttofunerals.Istudythis.Weremoveourselvesfromourgrieforfromourreverieandwegoinourphones.
Whydoesthismatter.ItmatterstomebecauseIthinkwe'
resavingourselvesupfortrouble.Troublecertainlyandhowwerelatetoeachother,butalsotroubleinhowwerelatetoourselvesinourcapacityforselfreflection.We'
regettingusedtoanewwayofbeingalonetogether.Peoplewanttobewitheachother,butalsoelsewhereconnectedtoallthedifferentplacestheywannabe.Peoplewanttocustomizetheirlives.Theywanttogoinandoutofalltheplacestheyarebecausethethingthatmattersmosttothemiscontroloverwheretheyputttheirattention.So,youwannagotothatboardmeeting,butyouonlywannapayattentiontothebitsthatinterestyou,andsomepeoplethinkthat'
sagoodthing,butyoucanenduphidingfromeachotherevenaswe'
reallconstantlyconnectedtoeachother.50-year-oldbusinessmanlamentstomethathefeelshedoesn'
thavecolleaguesanymoreatwork.Whenhegoestowork,hedoesn'
tstopbytotalktoanybodyhedoesn'
tcallandhesayshedoesn'
twanttointerrupthiscolleaguesbecausehesaystheyaretoobusyontheire-mail,butthenhestopshimselfandhesays,youknow,I'
mnottellyouthetruth.I'
mtheonewhodoesn'
twanttobeinterrupted.IthinkIshouldwantto,butactuallyI'
dratherjustdothingsonmyBlackberry(RIMM).
Acrossthegenerations,Iseethatpeopletendtogetenoughwitheachotherifandonlyiftheycanhaveeachotheratadistanceinamountstheycancontrol.IcallittheGoldilockseffect,nottooclose,nottoofar,justright,butwhatmightfeeljustrightforthatmiddleagedexecutivecanbeaproblemforanadolescentwhoneedstodevelopfacetofacerelationships.An18-year-oldboywhousestextingforalmosteverythingsaystomewishfullysomeday,somedaybutcertainlynotnowIwouldliketolearnhowtohaveaconversation.WhenIaskpeoplewrongwithhavingaconversation?
lltellyouwhat'
swrongwithhavingaconversation.Ittakesplaceinrealtimeandyoucan'
tcontrolwhatyou'
regonnasay.So,that'
sthebottomline;
texting,e-mail,posting.Allofthesethingsletuspresenttoselfaswewannabe.Wegettoeditandthatmeanswegettodelete,andthatmeanswegettoretouchtheface,thevoice,theflesh,thebody.Nottoomuch,justright.
Humanrelationshipsarerichandtheyaremessyandtheyaredemanding,andwecleanthemupwithtechnologyandwhenwedooneofthethingsthatcanhappenisthatwesacrificeconversationformereconnection.Weshortchangeourselves,andovertime,weseemedtoforgetthisorweseemedtostopcaring.IcaughtoffguardwhenStephenColbertaskedmeaprofoundquestion,aprofoundquestion.Hesaid,"
Don'
tallthoselittletweets,don'
tallthoselittleSIPsofonlinecommunicationaddupto1biggulfrealconversation?
"
Myanswerwasno.Theydon'
taddup.ConnectinginSIPsmayworkforgatheringdiscretebitsofinformation.TheymayworkforsayingandthinkingaboutyouorevenforsayingIloveyou.Imean,lookathowIfeltwhenIgotthattextfrommydaughter,buttheydon'
treallyworkforlearningabouteachothertoreallycomingtoknowandunderstandeachother,andweuseconversationswitheachothertolearnhowtohaveconversationswithourselves.
So,offlightfromconversationcanreallymatterbecauseitcancompromiseourcapacityforselfreflection.Forkidsgrowingup,thatskillisthebedrockofdevelopment.Overandover,Ihear,"
Iwouldrathertextthantalk."
AndwhatI'
mseeingisthatpeoplegetsousedtobeingshortchangeoutrealconversation,sousedtogettingbywithlessthattheybecomealmostwillingtodispensewithpeoplealtogether.So,forexample,manypeoplesharewithmethiswishthatsomedayamoreadvanceversionofSiri,thedigitalassistantonApple'
siPhone(AAPL)willbemorelikeabestfriend,someonewhowilllistenwhenotherwon'
t.IbelievethiswishreflectsapainfultruththatI'
velearnedinthepast15years.Thefeelingthatnooneislisteningtomeisveryimportantinourrelationshipswithtechnology.That'
swhyit'
sappealingtohaveaFacebookpageorTwitterfeedsomanyautomaticlisteners,andthefeelingthatnooneislisteningtomemakesuponetospendtimewithmachinesthatseemedtocareaboutus.We'
redevelopingrobots.Theycallthemsociablerobotsthatarespecificallydesignedtobecompanions,tobeelderlytoourchildren,tous.Havewesolostconfidencethatwewillbethereforeachother?
Allright,IwanttoseeashowofhandshowmanyofyouhaveunfriendedsomeoneonFacebookbecausetheysaidsomethingoffensiveaboutpoliticsorreligion,childcare,food?
Andhowmanyofyouknowatleastonepersonthatyouavoidbecauseyoujustdon’twanttotalktothem?
Youknow,itusedtobethatinordertohaveapoliteconversation,wejusthadtofollowtheadviceofHenryHigginsin“MyFairLady”:
Sticktotheweatherandyourhealth.Butthesedays,withclimatechangeandanti-vaxxing,thosesubjects—arenotsafeeither.Sothisworldthatwelivein,thisworldinwhicheveryconversationhasthepotentialtodevolveintoanargument,
whereourpoliticianscan’tspeaktooneanother,andwhereeventhemosttrivialofissueshavesomeonefightingbothpassionatelyforitandagainstit,it’snotnormal.PewResearchdidastudyof10,000Americanadults,andtheyfoundthatatthismoment,wearemorepolarized,wearemoredividedthanweeverhavebeeninhistory.Wearelesslikelytocompromise,whichmeanswe’renotlisteningtoeachother.Andwemakedecisionsaboutwheretolive,whotomarryandevenwhoourfriendsaregoingtobebasedonwhatwealreadybelieve.Again,thatmeanswe’renotlisteningtoeachother.Aconversationrequiresabalancebetweentalkingandlisting,andsomewherealongtheway,welostthatbalance.Now,partofthatisduetotechnology.Thesmartphonesthatyoualleitherhaveinyourhandsorcloseenoughthatyoucouldgrabthemreallyquickly.AccordingtothePewResearch,AboutathirdofAmericanteenagerssendmorethanahundredtextsaday.Andmanyofthem,almostmostofthem,aremorelikelytotexttheirfriendsthantheyaretotalktothemfacetoface.There’sthisgreatpieceinTheAtlantic.ItwaswrittenbyahighschoolteachernamedPaulBarnwell.Andhegavehiskidsacommunicationproject.
Hewantedtoteachthemhowtospeakonaspecificsubjectwithoutusingnotes.Andhesaidthis:
”Icametorealize…”
“Icametorealizethatconversationalcompetencemightbethesinglemostoverlookedskillwefailtoteach.Kidsspendhourseachdayengagingwithideasandeachotherthroughscreens,butrarelydotheyhaveanopportunitytohonetheirinterpersonalcommunicationsskills.Itmightsoundlikeafunnyquestion,butwehavetoaskourselves.Isthereany21st-centuryskillmoreimportantthanbeingabletosustaincoherent,confidentconversation?
”
Now,Imakemylivingtalkingtopeople:
NobelPrizewinners,truckdirvers,billionaries,kindergartenteachers,headsofstate,plumbers.ItalktopeoplethatIlike.ItalktopeoplethatIdon
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