Unit4 text IThe Girl in the Fifth Row.docx
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Unit4textITheGirlintheFifthRow
Unit4
Text1TheGirlintheFifthWow
LeoBuscaglia1
Pre-readingquestions
1、Whatdoyouthinklovemeans?
2、Howdoyouexpressyourlove,eitherverballyornon-verbally,foryourparentswhenconversingwiththem?
OnmyfirstdayasanassistantprofessorofeducationattheUniversityofSouthernCalifornia,Ienteredtheclassroomwithagreatdealofanxiety.Mylargeclassrespondedtomyawkwardsmileandbriefgreetingwithsilence.ForafewmomentsIfussedwithmynotes.ThenIstartedmylecture,stammering;nooneseemedtobelistening.
2AtthatmomentofpanicInoticedinthefifthrowapoised,attentiveyoungwomaninasummerdress.Herskinwastanned,herbrowneyeswereclearandalert,herhairwasgolden.Heranimatedexpressionandwarmsmilewereaninvitationformetogoon.WhenI'dsaysomething,shewouldnod,orsay,"Oh,yes!
"andwriteitdown.SheemanatedthecomfortingfeelingthatshecaredaboutwhatIwastryingsohaltinglytosay.
3Ibegantospeakdirectlytoherandmyconfidenceandenthusiasmreturned.AfterawhileIriskedlookingabout.Theotherstudentshadbegunlisteningandtakingnotes,Thisstunningyoungwomanhadpulledmethrough.
4Afterclass,Iscannedtherolltofindhername:
Liani.Herpapers,whichIreadoverthesubsequentweeks,werewrittenwithcreativity,sensitivityandadelicatesenseofhumor.
5Ihadaskedallmystudentstovisitmyofficeduringthesemester,andIawaitedLiani'svisitwithspecialinterest.Iwantedtotellherhowshehadsavedmyfirstday,andencouragehertodevelopherqualitiesofcaringandawareness.
6Lianinevercame.Aboutfiveweeksintothesemester,Shemissedtwoweeksofclasses.Iaskedthestudentsseatedaroundheriftheyknewwhy.Iwasshockedtolearnthattheydidnotevenknowhername.IthoughtofAlbertSchweitzer's2poignantstatement:
"Weareallsomuchtogetherandyetwearealldyingofloneliness."
7Iwenttoourdeanofwomen3.ThemomentImentionedLiani'sname,shewinced."Oh,I'msorry,Leo,"shesaid."Ithoughtyou'dbeentold..."
8LianihaddriventoPacificPalisades,alovelycommunityneardowntownLosAngeleswherecliffsfallabruptlyintothesea.There,shockedpicnickerslaterreported,shejumpedtoherdeath.
9Lianiwas22yearsold!
AndherGod-givenuniquenesswasgoneforever.
10IcalledLiani'sparents.FromthetendernesswithwhichLiani'smotherspokeofher,Iknewthatshehadbeenloved.ButitwasobvioustomethatLianihadnotfeltloved.
11"Whatarewedoing?
"Iaskedacolleague."We'resobusyteachingthings.What'sthevalueofteachingLianitoread,write,doarithmetic,ifwetaughthernothingofwhatshetrulyneededtoknow:
howtoliveinJoy,howtohaveasenseofpersonalworthanddignity?
"
12Idecidedtodosomethingtohelpotherswhoneededtofeelloved.Iwouldteachacourseonlove.
13Ispentmonthsinlibraryresearchbutfoundlittlehelp.Almostallthebooksonlovedealtwithsexorromanticlove.Therewasvirtuallynothingonloveingeneral.ButperhapsifIofferedmyselfonlyasafacilitator,thestudentsandIcouldteachoneanotherandlearntogether.IcalledthecourseLoveClass.
14Ittookonlyoneannouncementtofillthisnon-creditcourse.Igaveeachstudentareadinglist,buttherewerenoassignedtexts,noattendancerequirements,noexams.Wejustsharedourreading,ourideas,ourexperiences.
15Mypremiseisthatloveislearned.Our"teachers"arethelovingpeopleweencounter.Ifwefindnomodelsoflove,thenwegrowuplove-starvedandunloving.Thehappypossibility,Itoldmystudent,isthatlovecanbelearnedatanymomentofourlivesifwearewillingtoputinthetime,theenergyandthepractice.
16FewmissedevenonesessionofLoveclass.Ihadtocrowdthestudentsclosertogetherastheybroughtmothers,fathers,sisters,brothers,friends,husbands,wives,—evengrandparents.Scheduledtostartat7p.m.andendat10,theclassoftencontinueduntilwellpastmidnight.
17OneofthefirstthingsItriedtogetacrosswastheimportanceoftouching."Howmanyofyouhavehuggedsomeone—otherthanagirlfriend,boyfriendoryourspouse—withinthepastweek?
"Fewhandswentup.Onestudentsaid,"I'malwaysafraidthatmymotiveswillbemisinterpreted."Fromthenervouslaughter,Icouldtellthatmanysharedtheyoungwoman'sfeeling.
18"Lovehasaneedtobeexpressedphysically,"Iresponded."Ifeelfortunatetohavegrownupinapassionate,huggingItalianfamily.Iassociatehuggingwithamoreuniversalkindoflove.
19"Butifyouareafraidofbeingmisunderstood,verbalizeyourfeelingstothepersonyou'rehugging.Andforpeoplewhoarereallyuncomfortableaboutbeingembraced,awarm,two-handedhandshakewillsatisfytheneedtobetouched."
20Webegantohugoneanotheraftereachclass.Eventuallyhuggingbecameacommongreetingamongclassmembersoncampus.
21WeneverleftLoveClasswithoutaplantosharelove.Onenightwedecidedweshouldthankourparents.Thisproducedunforgettableresponses.
22Onestudent,avarsityfootballplayer,wasespeciallyuncomfortablewiththeassignment.Hefeltlovestrongly,buthehaddifficultyexpressingit.Ittookagreatdealofcourageanddeterminationforhimtowalkintothelivingroom,raisehisdadfromthechairandhughimwarmly.Hesaid,“Iloveyou,Dad,”andkissedhim.Hisfather’seyeswelledupwithtearsashemuttered,“Iknow.AndIloveyou,too,son.”Hisfathercalledmethenextmorningtosaythishadbeenoneofthehappiestmomentsofhislife.
23ForanotherLoveClassassignmentweagreedtosharesomethingofourselves,withoutexpectationofreward.Somestudentshelpeddisabledchildren.OthersassistedderelictsonSkidRow.Manyvolunteeredtoworkonsuicidehotlines4,hopingtofindtheLianisbeforeitwastoolate.
24Iwentwithoneofmystudents,Joel,toanursinghomenotfarfromU.S.C.Anumberofagedpeople5werelyinginbedsinoldcottongowns,staringattheceiling.Joellookedaroundandthenasked,"What'llIdo?
"Isaid,"Youseethatwomanoverthere?
Gosayhello,"
25Hewentoverandsaid,"Uh,hello."
26Shelookedathimsuspiciouslyforaminute."Areyouarelative?
"
27"No."
28"Good!
Sitdown,youngman."
29Oh,thethingsshetoldhim!
Thiswomanknewsomuchaboutlove,pain,suffering.Evenaboutapproachingdeath,withwhichshehadtomakesomekindofpeace.Butnoonehadcaredaboutlistening—untilJoel.Hestartedvisitingheronceaweek.Soon,thatdaybegantobeknownas"Joel'sDay."Hewouldcomeandalltheoldpeoplewouldgather.
30Thentheelderlywomanaskedherdaughtertobringherinaglamorousdressinggown.WhenJoelcameforhisvisit,hefoundhersittingupinbedinabeautifulsatingown,herhairdoneupstylishly.Shehadn'thadherhairfixedinages:
whyhaveyourhairdoneifnobodyreallyseesyou?
Beforelong,othersinthewardweredressingupforJoel.
31TheyearssinceIbeganLoveClasshavebeenthemostexcitingofmylife.Whileattemptingtoopendoorstoloveforothers,Ifoundthatthedoorswereopeningforme.
32Iateinagreasyspoon6inArizonanotlongago.WhenIorderedporkchops,somebodysaid,"You'recrazy,Nobodyeatsporkchopsinaplacelikethis."Butthechopsweremagnificent.
33"I'dliketomeetthechef,"Isaidtothewaitress.
34Wewalkedbacktothekitchenandtherehewas,abig,sweatyman."What'sthematter?
"hedemanded.
35"Nothing.Thoseporkchopswerejustfantastic."
36HelookedatmeasthoughIwasoutofmymind.Obviouslyitwashardforhimtoreceiveacompliment.Thenhesaidwarmly,"Wouldyoulikeanother?
"
37Isn'tthatbeautiful?
HadInotlearnedhowtobeloving,Iwouldhavethoughtnicethingsaboutthechef'sporkchops,butprobablywouldn'thavetoldhim—justasIhadfailedtotellLianihowmuchshehadhelpedmethatfirstdayinclass.That'soneofthethingsloveis:
sharingjoywithpeople.
38Anothersecretofloveisknowingthatyouareyourselfspecial,thatinalltheworldthereisonlyoneofyou.IfIhadamagicwandandasinglewish,Iwouldwavethewandovereverybodyandhaveeachindividualsay,andbelieve,"Ilikeme,rightthisminute.JustasIam,andwhatIcanbecome.I'mgreat."
39Thepursuitoflovehasmadeawonderofmylife.ButwhatwouldmyexistencehavebeenlikehadIneverknownLiani?
WouldIstillbestammeringoutsubjectmatteratstudents,yearafteryear,withlittleconcernaboutthevulnerablehumanbeingsbehindthemasks7?
Whocantell?
Lianipresentedmewiththechallenge,andItookitup!
IwishLianiwereheretoday.Iwouldholdherinmyarmsandsay,"Manypeoplehavehelpedmelearnaboutlove,butyougavemetheimpetus.Thankyou.Iloveyou."ButIbelievemyloveforLianihas,insomemysteriouswayalreadyreachedher.
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Notes
1、Abouttheauthor:
FeliceLeonardoBuscaglia(1924-)isaneducator,lecturer,andwriter.HereceivedhisundergraduatedegreesfromtheUniversityofSouthernCaliforniainLosAngeles.Since1975,hehasbeenlecturingasaprofessorofeducationatthatsameuniversity.Heiscalledthe“loveprofessor”becauseofhiscaringattitudetowardpeop
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